NOT THE DOER - NOT THE THINKER - NOT WHO YOU THINK YOU ARE
Wayne Liquorman, in his book Enlightenment Is Not What You Think writes "When I talk about Enlightenment, I talk about it very, very specifically, and it's extremely simple. In humans, at around the age of two-and-a-half, a profound shift occurs in which we change from spontaneous, free-flowing beings, to creatures in which everything is about 'Me!' and 'Mine!' and how to get what 'I' want and think 'I' need. It is the moment that the false sense of personal authorship starts. It happens to virtually every human being. It is the false sense that 'I', as this body-mind organism, am the source that makes things happen. (false sense of being the doer of actions) It is this false sense of authorship that creates suffering, because the new perception is that 'I' am in control of things. Yet there is continuous evidence to the contrary - that 'I' am not in control. So a powerful tension is established. Later, for some people, for whatever reason, that sense of personal authorship permanently dissolves. We can say it dies. That event is called Enlightenment. Over the millennia, people have mystified the hell out of it. Basically, it's an event that happens in the history of some human organisms."
Events happen, deeds are done, but there is no individual doer thereof.
You ask: "How to live my life?" But with the question you are suffocating life itself for life is spontaneity.
The belief of 'personal doership' and the subsequent relentless mental and behavioural manifestations which stem from that belief obscures the recognition of our continuous and unbroken connection to Source.
~ Roger Castillo
Nothing to do, Nothing to force, nothing to want - and everything happens by itself.
~ Lama Gendun Rinpoche
There is never any choice. Choice is based on the idea there is a separate someone who can chose. If I have a look at the most simple action hat appears to have choice involved, it is obvious that there is no question of choice. . . . Whatever I think I decide to do is a thought that simply arises and then falls away. Doing happens or not. . . .The thought "I am doing this" is just a thought that actually has no connection to the action that happens.
Life is totally taking care of everything. Who I am, who everyone is - is life. We can all relax, and let life do all the work.
~ Pamela Wilson
Everything is preordained. Even when I raise my finger like this, it is preordained. Do not be egotistical and believe that you have any power over everybody or anybody, or that you are the doer. It's a privilege to have been born on this earth, and the reason you have been born is to find your real Self. Go for it, do it, and become free.
~ Robert Adams
You have never "done" anything. Because the mind has conceived itself to be an individual it conceives itself as the "thinker" and also the "actor" or "doer." Yet it is not anyone. The mind is not a thing or an entity but a process, the thinking process. It is simply a process that is happening automatically, in the same way the heart is beating automatically.
~ Galen Sharpe
From the perspective of the infinite it is obvious that the individual self absolutely does not exist. The idea that we have a self that controls. arbitrates, or is the doer behind our actions, is absurd. The individual self is nothing but an idea of who we are. Ideas are ideas - and nothing more.
~ Suzanne Segal
The appearance of an individual self as a separate entity and as the originator or 'doer' of anything is the primary illusion, the basic 'endarkenment' from which any enlightenment occurs.
~ David Carse
Self-Realization or Enlightenment is nothing more than the deepest possible understanding that there is no individual doer of any action - neither you nor anyone else. Also you are not the thinker of any thoughts, nor the experiencer of any experiences - they happen. When IT happens, no bright lights are likely to flash in your head!
~ Ramesh Balsekar
Imagining that you are the doer of any action during your day is mistaken identity and an arrogance of the human mind. Mind will claim ownership. Mind will take responsibility. Mind will create expectations. Eventually, all of these ideas will bring suffering. When identification with the one who is doing ceases, life will continue uninhibited by the burden of the personal "I".
~ Jac O'Keeffe
When one sees oneself as neither the doer nor the reaper of the consequences, then all mind waves come to an end.
~ Ashtavakra Gita
What further evidence is required To prove your complete distrust of Your god Beyond the fact that You worry about tomorrow?
~ Wu Hsin
Rest nakedly in truly not knowing. Until now we have opted for trusting our minds, images and ideas, rather than trusting the spaciousness from which all arises. What an opportunity is available now to trust the unknown spaciousness of the heart.
Drop the highly revered concept of choice and let it be replaced by recognition the divine order in manifestation. You can effortlessly know the peace of being carried by a natural flow. All unfolds without your help.
~ Jac O'Keeffe
If you really step out of the way and stop assuming you can control it all, you will see what this life energy does on its own. Risk living in wonder and surprise.
I do not decide, intend, choose, control or make anything happen. I just think I do.
~ Liberation Unleashed
There is neither creation nor destruction. neither destiny nor free will. neither path nor achievement. This is the final truth.
~ Ramana Maharshi
Are you wiling just to be witness to the Mystery, in love and reverie?